How many times do you feel as though you’re chasing your tail around? The expression basically refers to a cat, dog, or other animal that suddenly gets into a playful mood, notices its tail, and tries to catch it. It may dart around in circles, swatting at it, snapping at it, but never catching it, and all it’s doing for all of that effort is nothing.
It’s easy to feel this way when you are a family caregiver.
When you are providing care and support for a spouse, parent, brother or sister, or even a friend because of their age, a medical emergency, or some other situation, you might not think much about it at first, other than it’s your responsibility. First, it is not your responsibility, even if this is your spouse of 50 or 60 years or more.
Second, even though it seemed easy at first, it will get tougher.
This person may only need help for a couple of months, so it’s no big deal, right? After a while, though, they might become overly dependent on your services. Even though they have recovered from this medical emergency and seem to be back to normal health, they might call you for help with various things.
The older people get, the more they will struggle.
When you reach a point when it seems as though nothing you do is really making a long-term difference, that they are not getting better, are not getting stronger, and only seem to become more dependent on you, that can make you feel like you are chasing your tail now.
All you want is some free time.
You’ve given up so much. You haven’t seen your best friend in months. You haven’t gone on a date with your spouse in over a year. You haven’t read a good book in weeks. Whatever you enjoy in your free time you might no longer be doing.
Everything you do from the moment you wake up until the time you go to bed is just enough to keep up, not get ahead. You are, in effect, just chasing your tail.
This increases the stress you feel as a family caregiver, but there is something you can do. Learn about home care support services. A home care aide can be a valuable asset. You don’t have to hire somebody for full-time care. Through an agency, you can find an experienced caregiver for just a few hours at a time.
That can help you return to your own life while resting in confidence knowing this senior is getting the support he or she needs to stay safe and maintain a decent quality of life.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Brighton, NY, contact the caring staff at Caring Hearts of Rochester today! Serving Rochester, Pittsford, Greece, Webster, Canandaigua, Fairport, Perinton, Penfield, Brighton, Henrietta and surrounding communities. Call 585-245-0134.
Kevin and his wife, Candy, lived in Naples, Florida for 10 years, where three of their four children were born. He was recruited to the insurance industry by a colleague who felt his personality would benefit people with needs. The insurance industry became a big part of their lives. He evaluated peoples’ risks, working with property and casualty, and life products, and later began to underwrite Long Term Care insurance as people were beginning to plan for their futures. He started two agencies, then bought a third. In his last three years before selling his third agency, he was ranked in the top 10%, top 5% & then top 1% nationally out of the more than 12,500 Allstate agencies in the U.S. at the time. Kevin’s success can be accredited to his kind nature and his genuine desire to help individuals and families with their needs. He feels very at home meeting with people and discussing their needs, a trait that has been very helpful in his continued success with Caring Hearts of Rochester. Kevin returned to Rochester in 2006 to introduce their young children to snow and to be closer to his extended family.
After having returned to Rochester from their careers in other states, John and Kevin reconnected. Alzheimer’s had afflicted both of their families, and they had both experienced and witnessed the challenges associated with the role of being a caregiver. Kevin’s and John’s collective experiences complemented their desire to work with families and individuals in need. They founded Caring Hearts of Rochester and have since been able work in a capacity that has become a passion for them. They are both Certified Senior Advisors (CSA), a designation earned through education, study and experience in the Elderly and Geriatric Care Profession. Their number one concern is providing their senior clients with ethical and effective services and products. Caring Hearts of Rochester is associated with numerous local affiliations for the elderly in the Upstate NY area including Lifespan, Eldersource, and the Greater Rochester Area Partnership for the Elderly.
As the co-founders and hands-on managers of Caring Hearts of Rochester, we thank you for this opportunity to tell you about our passion. We are responsible for the services we offer, for the people we hire, for the training they receive, for the quality and reliability of the services our team delivers to you and your loved ones. Give us a call so that we may learn more about you and your needs at (585) 861-CARE(2273)
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