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When Should You Draw the Line with Mom and Her Safety at Home?

Senior Home Safety in Webster NY

You’ve just about had it. Your mother won’t listen to you. Nothing you do or say seems to make a difference to her. You’re concerned about her safety and she’s being flippant.

This last time you left your house it was after a heated argument. You told her, “Fine, mom, the next time you need help, don’t call me.”

Senior Home Safety in Webster NYIt happens far too often. An adult child or other family member takes it upon himself or herself to provide the care and support their elderly loved one requires. After a while, they begin to see a number of challenges their elderly loved one is facing, and they admonish them to take certain steps to reduce various risk factors.

Unfortunately, that senior doesn’t seem to want to listen. So then arguments ensue, insults are thrown, and harm comes to the relationship. While harm comes to the relationship, safety isn’t improved at all. In fact, it could be reduced especially if that family caregiver is not willing to answer the phone the next time the senior needs assistance.

So when should you draw the line when it comes to safety?

First, you shouldn’t.

It’s up to the elderly individual to decide the course of his or her life. This includes determining what safety measures they take, what home improvements they allow, or whether or not they rely on a home care aide.

It’s always best to rely on a home care aide who has experience, but if the senior refuses it, you can’t force it upon him or her.

Second, discuss safety measures.

You could install grab bars to help in the tub or shower. A stair lift could be beneficial. Improving lighting could be instrumental for safety. Discuss the various measures that could be helpful at keeping your mother safe. She just might not realize what they are and how easy they are to include in her home.

Third, talk about your concerns and observations.

What have you seen that causes you such concern? What issues have arisen that could ultimately be serious safety problems?

Lastly, respect her decisions.

Ultimately, you need to respect your elderly mother and her decisions. The more information you have at hand, the easier it will be for you to convince her to consider certain improvements or to at least rely on the experience of a home care aide. Her safety is the most important thing to you, and with the right approach you should be able to help her improve this at home.

If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for seniors in Webster, NY, contact the caring staff at Caring Hearts of Rochester today! Serving Rochester, Pittsford, Greece, Webster, Canandaigua, Fairport, Perinton, Penfield, Brighton, Henrietta and surrounding communities. Call 585-245-0134.

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Kevin Watkins

Caring Hearts of Rochester was founded by John Hunt and Kevin Watkins. Kevin and John met when they were in the same Boy Scout Troop in their youth. They chose different career paths before forming Caring Hearts.
Kevin and his wife, Candy, lived in Naples, Florida for 10 years, where three of their four children were born. He was recruited to the insurance industry by a colleague who felt his personality would benefit people with needs. The insurance industry became a big part of their lives. He evaluated peoples’ risks, working with property and casualty, and life products, and later began to underwrite Long Term Care insurance as people were beginning to plan for their futures. He started two agencies, then bought a third. In his last three years before selling his third agency, he was ranked in the top 10%, top 5% & then top 1% nationally out of the more than 12,500 Allstate agencies in the U.S. at the time. Kevin’s success can be accredited to his kind nature and his genuine desire to help individuals and families with their needs. He feels very at home meeting with people and discussing their needs, a trait that has been very helpful in his continued success with Caring Hearts of Rochester. Kevin returned to Rochester in 2006 to introduce their young children to snow and to be closer to his extended family.

After having returned to Rochester from their careers in other states, John and Kevin reconnected. Alzheimer’s had afflicted both of their families, and they had both experienced and witnessed the challenges associated with the role of being a caregiver. Kevin’s and John’s collective experiences complemented their desire to work with families and individuals in need. They founded Caring Hearts of Rochester and have since been able work in a capacity that has become a passion for them. They are both Certified Senior Advisors (CSA), a designation earned through education, study and experience in the Elderly and Geriatric Care Profession. Their number one concern is providing their senior clients with ethical and effective services and products. Caring Hearts of Rochester is associated with numerous local affiliations for the elderly in the Upstate NY area including Lifespan, Eldersource, and the Greater Rochester Area Partnership for the Elderly.

As the co-founders and hands-on managers of Caring Hearts of Rochester, we thank you for this opportunity to tell you about our passion. We are responsible for the services we offer, for the people we hire, for the training they receive, for the quality and reliability of the services our team delivers to you and your loved ones. Give us a call so that we may learn more about you and your needs at (585) 861-CARE(2273)

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