Roger served in the Army during the Korean War. He served in a forward combat situation for several months. A couple of his brothers in arms lost their lives and it was a difficult situation for him to return to the United States, overcome what would eventually be known as post-traumatic stress disorder, and begin enjoying life once more.
With the support of family and friends and other veterans, he managed to build a great life and family.
When he was widowed at 81, that was an extremely difficult circumstance. He and his wife had been married for 55 years. They were inseparable, sharing some of the highest highs and the lowest of lows, supporting one another through some extremely difficult circumstances. After she passed away, Roger seemed to withdraw, but thanks to the love and support of family and close friends, he returned to his life and continued to press on.
When he was 86, he slipped going up the stairs. He broke a bone in his leg and was laid up for several weeks while it healed. He wasn’t strong enough to get around on crutches, so he leaned on some of his adult children who were still in the area. After that incident, though, things began to decline for him, at least physically and then, ultimately, mentally and emotionally.
He didn’t have a good outlook on life. He had to give up many activities that were once important to him. There was only so much he could do at this point in his life.
His family finally talked about options, one of which included home care support.
As a veteran, especially having served during a time of official combat, the VA offers financial support for those who may not have the financial resources to pay for home care on their own. Such was the case for Roger.
He was reluctant to look into this because he didn’t see the value.
After some convincing by his family, he finally started looking at it differently. He applied for the Aid and Attendance Benefit, was approved, and started enjoying the support and service of an experienced home care aide who worked for an agency. This person encouraged him to get active, be focused on the things that were still important to him, and that affected his outlook and, ultimately, his quality of life.
For Roger’s family and friends, this transformation at 86 was, in two words, stunning and beautiful.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for aging veterans in Garden City, NY, please contact the caring staff at Family First Home Companions. Serving all of Long Island. Call today: (631) 319-3961
Jennifer has specialized training in Alzheimer's disease through the Long Island Alzheimer's Association and the Long Island Alzheimer's Foundation. She also volunteered her time with the Alzheimer's Disease Assistance Center of Long Island for 3 years by providing congnitive stimulations to an Alzheimer's patient group.
Jennifer educates the community about elder care and speaks to caregiver support groups, senior centers, and at professional organizations. Topics include home safety, effective strategies for family caregiving, elder care planning, and awareness about elder abuse.
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