Your mother needs help. She’s in her 70s or 80s, is living alone, and you notice that she’s not keeping up with the general housekeeping, eating healthy, or even taking care of herself as much as she did in the past. You’ve talked to her about it and she admitted she is struggling with her physical capabilities.
You’ve decided to take care of her.
You have, in essence, agreed to become her primary caregiver. This is a great responsibility, even if you don’t see it as such just yet. You may see this as your responsibility. You may feel that this is your job, especially since you live relatively close to her.
Before you take on this role or (and even if you already have) you need to think about your limitations.
Everyone has limits. You have limits on your time, energy, focus, and physical capabilities. The moment you begin pushing your limits too far, that’s the moment you’re going to run into trouble. You may have health issues, you may have a job that is put in jeopardy, you may get frustrated and angry, you may start snapping at the people closest to you, you may hamper your relationships and friendships, and so much more.
How can you identify your limits?
Determine how much time you have during the day. If you work a full-time job and have other responsibilities, you may only have one, maybe two hours at best to devote to your mother.
Do you really only have one or two hours?
What about keeping up with the housework, preparing your own meals, and more at home? What about exercise? Will you have to give up those things? If so, then you really don’t have one or two hours. You may only have 15 or 30 minutes to stop by and help your mother.
A lot of family caregivers see those other things as unnecessary.
You might see exercise or keeping up with your own housework as being no big deal. You can put that off, at least until the weekend. Unfortunately, if you put it off for a short amount of time, you’re most likely going to put it off time and time again.
When you recognize your limitations, you should also recognize the value in hiring home care support services. A home care aide doesn’t have to be hired for full-time care when you book through an agency. You can hire somebody for just a couple of hours a day once or twice a week to start. That can help you avoid pushing beyond your limitations.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of home care to reduce caregiver stress in Great Neck, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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