Your mother is living alone. Perhaps she’s been living alone for many years. People grow accustomed to the routine of being alone, but as she gets older you get more concerned about her safety. At some point in time your mother may very well be extremely worried about her own safety, even though she doesn’t express it all that often.
Why isn’t she talking about it?
When people grow concerned about their own safety, especially as they get older, they might have a tendency to keep things to themselves. That’s often a natural reaction because your mother may very well worry what could happen if she finally admits to her concerns.
Could she be moved into some other facility?
Your mother probably prefers to remain where she is, at home, where she’s lived for most of her adult life. Just the thought of having to leave and move in with you, to another facility, or to consider other options can cause her a great deal of stress and anxiety in itself.
If she’s worried about how you will respond when she talks about her own safety concerns, she may keep things to herself far longer than she should.
It’s important to be willing to listen.
Often when adult children and other family members and loved ones become concerned about the safety and well-being of their family members, especially their aging parents or grandparents, they have a tendency to talk rather than listen. They talk about their concerns. They express the challenges they notice surrounding their loved one every single day.
At this point in time it’s important to listen to what your mother has to say. Maybe it’s just certain things she’s concerned about. There may be specific reasons why she is worried about her safety. There may be a better solution to helping her as opposed to encouraging her to move or take other drastic action.
A home care aide can be a great idea.
When you sit down and discuss the prospect of home care providers, such as hiring an aide for just a couple of hours a day once or twice a week to start, your mother may see that as an opportunity to not just remain home where she’s most comfortable, but to have somebody with her when she needs to do the laundry down in the basement, go to the store to do some shopping, and other basic tasks she has been struggling to complete on her own.
She may be able to see how safety can be improved and how she can stay where she wants to be.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of home care to improve senior home safety in Floral Park, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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