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Why Family Members Refuse Help Even When Caregiver Stress is Too Much

Caregiver Stress in Dix Hills NY

Taking care of an aging loved one can have its rewards but it is also important to realize just how much time and effort is needed to be a familyCaregiver-Stress-Dix-Hills-NY caregiver. Often family members are quick to step up and be a caregiver for an aging parent, grandparent, or some other loved one and they have no idea how hard it can be. Even when the pressure is too much and caregiver stress is taking over their life, they still refuse help. Why?

Caregiver stress is not something to take lightly. It can have serious effects on a person’s health both physically and mentally, as well as their own personal life. Family caregivers who are overwhelmed by the stress of taking care of a loved are not going to be able to provide a high quality of life for the senior.

So why do caregivers refuse help?

Even when safe options for help are available, many caregivers make excuses and refuse the help. Here are some common reasons for refusal.

Reason #1 Why caregivers refuse help: They feel guilty.

Many adult children feel that it is their responsibility to take care of an aging parent or other loved one. This is often the case when parents did a lot for their children when they were younger.

There is no point to feeling guilty if you are unable to provide the quality of care for a loved one by yourself. Home care agencies have professional and experienced aides who can supplement the care that you realistically have time to provide.

 Reason #2 Why caregivers refuse help: The desire to protect.

Coming to terms with the declining health of a loved one is hard enough. This in turn creates a desire to be the one to provide care and protect them.

Receiving help doesn’t have to diminish your desire to care and protect. If anything having an extra set of hands and eyes can be beneficial. An experienced caregiver can be there to encourage your loved one to stay active during those times when you might not be able to due to work or other circumstances.

Reason #3 Why caregivers refuse help: Fear of a stranger working with their loved one.

We’ve all seen or heard the horror stories in the news from time to time about a hired caregiver committing fraud or abuse. In reality, there are far, far more positive stories that never make it to the news.

Most homecare aides, especially those hired from an agency are compassionate and kind. These agencies also conduct thorough background checks and even provide training in many instances.

The morale of this story is that there is no reason why you should have to suffer from caregiver stress. Don’t be afraid to seek help whether it’s from other family members, friends, or a professional caregiver.


If you or an aging loved one are in need of caregiver services in Dix Hills, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!



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Stephen Sternbach

Chief Executive Officer at Star Multi Care
Stephen Sternbach has been the Chairman of the Board of Directors, President, and Chief Executive Officer of Star Multi Care Services since 1987. After the sale of the New York and New Jersey operations of Star Multi Care Services, Sternbach brought the company private where he remains President and CEO of this newly developed $22M home healthcare company. With Sternbach at the helm, Star Multi Care Services employs more than 550 employees, in six offices throughout Florida, Pennsylvania, Ohio and New York.

From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.

1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.

In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.

Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.