Being married for 50, 60, or even more years can feel almost overwhelming at times. Some couples look back and wonder where the time went. Others cherish the incredible memories, family, and adventures they had. When a spouse is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, almost everything changes.
The other spouse starts to see the challenges, not the joys.
It might take days, weeks, or even months for the couple to truly accept what has happened. Some can’t really get past the diagnosis itself and wonder what the future might hold for both of them.
In most cases, the spouse becomes the primary caregiver.
They don’t consider home care options because they don’t see that it’s necessary. They don’t see how hiring a home care aide is any real benefit, especially when that other spouse is still physically capable of doing a little bit extra around the house.
They don’t see the signs and symptoms of Alzheimer’s that will progress. They don’t realize how the disease is going to affect the brain and ultimately mobility, safety, and so much more.
This spouse, the supportive caregiver, will often become overwhelmed. He or she is going to work himself or herself to the point of exhaustion. They’re going to do this because they feel it’s their responsibility. They’re going to do this because they don’t see any other option. They simply don’t realize the value in home care support.
They also feel guilty if they even think about quitting.
They can’t quit, though. They took their vows seriously. They know they are going to keep doing this until the end, either their own or their beloved husband or wife.
However, getting some time off is important.
There’s a reason why workers in modern society get vacation time, weekends off, and more. Without that time off, it becomes much easier to burnout. It becomes much too easy to get frustrated, lose hope, lose sight of what you’re doing, and even not care about the end result any longer.
The same can happen to an elderly man or woman who is wearing out trying to take care of their spouse who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. While they can certainly call on friends and family, the best thing is to rely on home care support services.
A home care aide through an agency can offer flexibility, experience, and dedication that this senior with Alzheimer’s truly needs. The spouse can still take care of this individual, but they can also get time for themselves, which is crucial for a good, healthy marriage and wonderful final leg of this journey they’ve taken together.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Alzheimer’s care in Floral Park, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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